“I think men are afraid to be with a successful woman, because we are terribly strong, we know what we want and we are not fragile enough.”  ~Shirley Bassey

I saw this quote and it put me in a "releasing stress off my chest" type mood.  A friend and I were debating about Beyonce and Neyo messed all relationships up for women.  He argued that women are looking for a financial bond more so than an emotional one.  While that may be true for some women don't categorize all women to be that woman that you chose to deal with.  The problem is that men are afraid of a woman with a "breadwinner" attitude.  Men want to handicap their woman so they don't have a choice but to stay while they hangout and do whatever it is men do.  My friend asked why do women feel empowered by making more money than a man and it makes it hard for a man to approach us because they assume because we are successful we are automatically stereotyped as being siddity.  Most women (if not all) knows their worth. We have standards and although some may be higher than others, they still exist.  We know what we are looking for in a man.  If automatically you feel some kind of way about a woman's success, my friend you have already lost the battle to your lack of confidence.  A women can read the type a guy you are just by your approach.  I know off  top you're flexing, balling, tricking, lying, cheating, or all of the above.  And that's the problem.  I'm trying to figure out why the independent women can't get any love?  Ya'll want these groupie heffas sitting in bubbles with their hair on fire and such.  SMH! Yet the independent woman get passed up. Why is that?